Then, the hard, but most rewarding work really began.
Evaluating each of them on their merits and on their consequences...which is the first step towards freeing oneself from mindsets that no longer serve the intended positive outcome, but instead have become restrictive to the life that could be led.
As our facilitator told us, before proceeding with the mindset evaluation, look with kind eyes, and be gentle with your self and your mindset. It began its existence to serve a purpose - to protect you and guide you to the future. And it has done its job really well - hence you are alive today, and, if you are reading this and looking at your own mindsets, then it has somehow also guided you to this point where you are given permission to free yourself from this restraining pattern of being.
The 9 simple questions I use to use to evaluate a mindset:
- How strong (on a scale of 1 to 10) is this mindset?
- How long have I (or the coachee) had the mindset?
- What behaviour does the mindset drive?
- What feelings are behind the mindset?
- How has this mindset served me (or the coachee) in the past?
- How has this mindset limited me (or the coachee) in the past?
- How does this mindset serve me (or the coachee) now?
- How does this mindset limit me (or the coachee) now?
- How would I (or the coachee) like it to be?